Coaching with Elizabeth

Your relationships can feel better.

Sometimes I kick myself when I think about how my relationships used to feel. They were fraught with anxiety, stress, and pressure. I consistently felt like the people I loved were going to leave me (if not now, then eventually) and it took away my ability to enjoy my relationships. I usually did the following:

• Stayed WAY longer than I should have, even though I wasn’t get my needs met and I could feel that my partner wasn’t really in the relationship the way I wanted them to be

• Shapeshifted and self-abandoned in order to maintain the connection and keep them around as long as possible

• Cut and run for fear of being hurt later

If I had known about attachment styles and relational healing, I am positive that every one of my relationships would have been different. Some of them would have ended much earlier; I would have stood up for myself and stated my needs clearly, knowing I would be okay even if the relationship ended; and finally (and maybe the one that saddens me the most) is that there are some relationships in which I would have stayed because I would have had a sense of confidence and clarity that I just didn’t have then.

Does any of this sound familiar to you?

Fast forward many years! I am now an attachment and relational specialist, trained in concrete ways to support our nervous systems as relational beings, identify and shift behavioral and emotional patterns, and honor our experiences as human beings. I am the author of Attachment Theory Workbook for Couples, a tool to support relationships that include people of various attachment styles, sexualities, and gender identities. I used to feel lost in a sea of relationship challenges, emotions, and nervous system activation. Now I know the path to healing, and I want to share it with you.

I have three coaching slots open for spring 2024. Please use the contact form to schedule your clarity call to see if we are a good fit!

What you can expect from coaching:

• Clarity around your relational patterns and the causes of them (with lots of compassion and research to back it up)

• Concrete tools and strategies to navigate nervous system activation and create a felt sense of safety in your body

• A fresh approach to developing secure attachments in your most important relationships

• Accountability, gentle challenging, and the belief that you absolutely can shift your relationships toward more integrity, satisfaction, and connection

• An individualized approach to your particular life experiences and relationships, because there is no “one size fits all” or “easy” approach to this work—and I will be there with you the whole way!

• A truly relational approach to changing your life, where you will practice everything we talk about and feel ready to show up authentically

• A collaborative process where you share your expertise about your life, your patterns, and your wisdom—and I walk alongside you with the information I have learned. We work TOGETHER during our time.