Thank you for being here.
Attachment theory work has changed my life. I do this work because it continues to support me—literally every day.
Relationships used to be deeply painful and anxiety-provoking for me. I was always willing to sacrifice myself to maintain the connection, especially in partnerships. My lack of boundaries lead me to intense interpersonal trauma, the kind that lodges itself in your nervous system and takes intentional work to move on from. I was highly skilled at convincing people to be in relationship with me, even when they didn’t want to be—because it helped me feel valid and whole.
That way of being was exhausting. My body and my nervous system couldn’t take it anymore and after a cancer diagnosis in my early 20s, I knew I had to do something differently. A new relationship (with my now partner of more than 10 years) prompted me to dig into my old patterns and make choices that were truly in alignment with who I want to be in the world. I know these patterns inside and out, and now I know how to heal our hearts after so many years of feeling not quite good enough and not quite lovable.
10+ years experience
of training and practice in attachment theory allow me to support you, wherever you find yourself in relationships. I have worked with hundreds of clients in my therapy private practice and apply this knowledge to my online courses, mentoring opportunities, coaching groups, support bundles, and my book, The Attachment Theory Workbook for Couples. I’ve dedicated years to this work because it’s effective and I LOVE it. I will guide you into a new way of being in relationship with others. Your relationship with yourself will change, and this will impact every aspect of your life. Our work together is truly powerful. It’s an honor to to support you in showing up fully for yourself and having deeper, more magical, and truly connective relationships.
My vision
Together, we shape your relational patterns to be in alignment with your deepest sense of security, belonging, and worthiness and shift every relationship you have—including the one with yourself.
my valuesClear old patterns
Identify + understand patterns that no longer serve you with the support of attachment theory.
Support your nervous system
Manage emotional triggers + show up with integrity to have satisfying, loving relationships.
Build new ways of relating
Set clear boundaries, communicate compassionately, + feel deeply connected to yourself and your partner.
Questions & Answers
Is coaching the right modality for my circumstances?
Coaching is a good fit for you if you: 1. Feel generally stable and are wanting support around a specific aspect of your life–especially relationships, your connection with yourself, or showing up more fully and authentically in your community. It’s wonderful if you also have a therapist or other types of support, too, but this is not necessary! 2. Are able to be consistently available for our coaching meetings (or group times) and can prioritize this work during this phase of your life. 3. Feel motivated to transform your relational patterns and are willing to practice new ways of engaging between our sessions.
If this doesn’t feel quite right for you at the moment, a Virtual Coffee or an online, self-paced attachment theory focused course may be the perfect fit.
What does it look like to work with you?
My approach is compassionate, knowledgeable, and connected–I believe I should be practicing what I’m teaching, so I show up to my time with you with connection as the number one priority. Our relationship makes all the difference in your learning, and I want to know everything that’s important to you so I can be sure you get your needs met in our work together. That being said, I expect the same from you! Mentoring and coaching groups are high commitment because they are high yield–your life will *definitely* change if you show up, do the work, and practice what we explore together.
Is coaching the same as therapy?
Coaching is not mental health care or therapy, and I do not provide mental health diagnoses as a coach or mentor. If you are seeking counseling services, please visit Psychology Today or Open Path Collective for some wonderful options in your area. If you are located in North Carolina, USA, you can learn more about my therapy practice here.
